Thursday, January 22, 2015

Thursday Thoughts with Karen Stivali

Waking up before the good stuff happens

I’ve always been a vivid dreamer. Ever since I was a kid I can remember having dreams so real that when I wake up I’m confused about whether  the things that happened in the dream really took place or not. My dreams are long and complicated with twisty plots and characters that are often hybrids of several people I actually know mixed with strangers or celebrities. Some are scary, some are happy, some have that quality where you know it’s a dream but you still stay in the dream. 

I love dreaming.

 My one complaint? Whenever I have a sexy dream, regardless of what the plot is or who’s involved, I will get right to the moment when something awesome is going to happen---a first kiss, a kiss that’s about to turn into more than a kiss, that moment when you’re all want and need and OMG NOW….and that’s when I wake up. Every time. Every damned time.

My dreams fade to black for the good stuff.

I can’t even tell you how annoying I find that. I hate when books fade to black for sex scenes. Hate it. To me that’s the equivalent of telling someone you just had the best meal of your life, describing the décor of the restaurant, the color of the linen napkins, the feel of the leather bound menus in your hands---and then not telling them what you ate. Why would you do that? Why leave out the most important part? Don’t yada-yada over the best stuff!

And yet that’s what my subconscious does. My own brain yada-yada’s over the good stuff when I’m dreaming.

The reason I write romance is that real life doesn’t always give the people I care about the happy endings I think they deserve, so I write books where I can give the fictional people I care about a happily ever after with every book I write.  And the reason my books all contain explicit sex scenes is that I don’t want to skip the best parts.

I don’t write sex scenes for the sake of spicing up a book. I write them because when you’re telling a story about how two people fell in love, sex is bound to play a part in that. An important part, for most couples. The intimacy and dynamics that change as a couple evolves from acquaintances to friends to lovers is fascinating to me. I love exploring all of that---the first exchanged glances, thoughts you think maybe you shouldn’t be having, all the delicious tension when you’re waiting to see what happens next, first kisses, first touches, the have-to-have-you-now feel of the first encounter, the slow sweetness of the less-hurried later explorations---every minute a couple spends together is part of how their relationship is developing.

That’s why I write. So I can watch that unfold and see the beauty and the sorrow and all the sexy moments. Speaking of sexy “moments” be sure to check out my latest release MOMENT OF IMPACT. It’s a m/m, New Adult, coming-of-age/coming out story that follows two college roommates on their journey from friends to lovers. 

And, unlike my dreams, I don’t leave out the good parts. 

Moment of Impact

Moments in Time: Book One

Outside Collin Fitzpatrick’s dorm room is a dangerous place. Beyond his door the students of his small, conservative college think he’s straight, as does his Catholic family who'd disown him if they learned the truth. Inside, he’s safe with his incredibly sexy roommate Tanner D’Amico. 

Their room makes a perfect place to hide away and fall in love. 

The moment they cross the line from roommates to lovers, Collin becomes caught between their heavenly passionate encounters and the hellish reality that someone might find out and destroy everything. 

Tanner's not used to being so confined, and wants to show the world how much he loves Collin. But Collin’s not sure he’s ready for the impact stepping outside will make.


About Karen Stivali

Karen's lifelong fascination with people has led her to careers ranging from hand-drawn animator, to party planner, to marriage and family counselor, but writing has always been her passion. Karen enjoys nothing more than following her characters on their journey toward love. Whether the couples are m/f or m/m, it’s guaranteed that Karen's novels are filled with food, friendship, love, and smoking hot sex—all the best things in life.

 When Karen isn’t writing (and often when she is), she can be found on Twitter attempting witty banter and detailing the antics of her fruit-loving cat, BadKitteh. She loves to hear from readers (and other writers), so don't hesitate to contact/follow/like her at:



  1. Just bought this one - can't wait to read it#

  2. **That should have been an exclamation point, not a hashtag...stupid blogspot wouldn't let me edit OR delete.

  3. I bought it this week, but your description above would have convinced me.

  4. Aloha Karen

    Love this. I'm like you. Don't give me
    Fade to black. His zipper came down. ... That was amazing he whispered.

    Er...excuse me. Where the bit in the middle? I've been robbed!!!

    So I think I will enjoy your stories a lot. I wrote the same way. Going on my TBR. :-).

    Thanks and aloha Meg Amor. :-)

  5. Ps. I also have the same thing in dreams. Really annoying!!! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. :-). Aloha Meg.

  6. Going on my TBR pile, sounds so good.

  7. And on my TBR list ��