Monday, December 14, 2015
Monday Musings with Lynda Aicher
Insta-love seems to be the modern, shortened term for ‘love at first sight.’ It’s far from a new concept or story trope and has been the basis for many, many movies and books. However, the believability factor of it is still debated and often panned.
A lot of the arguments I’ve heard against insta-love revolve around the premise that love doesn’t happen that way in real life. That people don’t meet, fall immediately in love and live happily ever after. The belief is that love is something that has to grow slowly between a couple in order for it to last.
Now an immediate attraction is classified as insta-lust and completely acceptable. However the caveat is lust can’t move into love without a passage of time and significant interaction between the couple. But there is no set rule on how much time and interaction is required. Is two weeks, a month, six months long enough before love can be declared as believable?
I personally believe in insta-love, or more importantly, I want to believe in it. It’s exciting and romantic and fun to imagine that special person stepping into your life and sweeping you off your feet. And who’s to say if the emotion is superficial or won’t last? Isn’t that dependent on the couple? Trying to classify how love works for each individual is like trying to define who each of us should love. What is right for one person, isn’t so good for another.
I agree that relationships take work and compromise. That there’s more involved and required for a couple to live together happily than an intense attraction. Love is an emotion and therefore flexible and shifting. It can mean different things to everyone and have varying levels of intensity. It isn’t the same for anyone and judging and ridiculing how someone else experiences it is, in my opinion, kind of pointless.
But most importantly, when it comes to fictional love, I think anything goes. Every couple is different and so are their experiences. So if love happens fast and instantaneously or is a slow build over many trials, I’m good either way.
What are your feelings on insta-love? Do you believe in in?
The Christmas Eve wedding Evan Cleary pulled together in four weeks is crashing down around him and taking his fledgling event planning business with it. With an empty altar and over a hundred guests arriving soon, he turns to the resistant, gorgeous brother of the runaway groom for help.
When Richard Patterson’s flamboyant brother storms out hours before he’s scheduled to marry his equally dramatic partner, Richard is left dealing with the fallout. The last thing he wants is more drama, yet he can’t deny his attraction to the effeminate event planner trying to salvage the wedding.
Evan thinks his crush on Richard is a lost cause, but one steaming kiss later, he learns different. What starts as a night of hot sex turns into a connection neither expected. But Evan knows their relationship is hopeless unless the ultra-conservative Richard can embrace every part of him—both in private and in public.
About Lynda Aicher
I love to read. It's a simple fact about me that has been true since I discovered the worlds of Judy Blume at the age of ten. This love of reading transferred to young romance (the early version of Young Adult when the stories weren't plagued by vampires, werewolves, and death) which hooked me on the romance genre and the fulfillment that comes with a happy-ever-after ending.
Twenty-five years later, I'm still an avid reader of all types of romance. The diversity of writing in the market ensures that there is always something new to read. I'm still a sucker for the happy-ever-after because there are more than enough not-so-happy endings in the real world that I don't need to read about them. I read a book for enjoyment and I want to feel good when the story ends.
I have the luxury of being a full-time writer, that is, a full-time writer around my duties as mom, wife, cleaner, cook, chauffeur, master scheduler, banker, cheerleader, volunteer, and tutor. Writing has to be a priority, or it would never happen.
I live in the Pacific Northwest which provides many months of rain-filled incentive to stay indoors and write. However, I'm a Midwesterner at heart. A perfect day has the snow falling outside, a fire warming the room, a football game on the television, a roast cooking in the oven, my family hanging out around me and a good book to read.
I'm thrilled to be nominated for a 2015 Romance Writers of America RITA® award (that's the Oscars of the romance world) for my Male/Male book Bonds of Denial. This is the first time any M/M books have been nominated and I'm humbled to be a part of such a great event.
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