Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Wednesday Whine & Wine with Meg Amor

Why DO we women like gay male porn so much?

Aloha everyone. I keep looking at this question because I write a ménage series. I love watching gay male porn and writing about male/male/female sex. And judging from this blog and others, I’m not the only woman who feels this way.

I stumbled across this realization when my ‘nice wee romance’ turned into something else. Charlie was supposed to be my main character Henry’s, best friend, occasionally putting in an appearance, being a sounding board then disappearing again. But he didn’t get the memo. Or the hints to bugger off! I nicknamed him ‘bloody Charlie.’ 

I said to him, “You can’t be in this book. It’s a male/female romance. What would the readers think? People won’t go for that. Go away!”

He just gave me that slow sultry smile, his hot black eyes spearing me. “I just want one sex scene with them.” He brushed the back of his hand against my face, the smoldering sensuous burn and I caved…

Okay, it wasn’t quite like that, but fairly close. I talked to my mentor, who said, “Let him have a scene, just run with it. He’ll be satisfied and that’ll be that.”

So…I did.

And he wasn’t.

Four books later, Charlie’s the strongest character, and the one most loved in my Troika Love Series. LOL. People love Henry and Izzy, but Charlie captures their heart and soul.

So, what the hell IS it about male/male sex scenes? Why do we find them so attractive? My lovers are in a committed loving troika relationship. They usually make love together, but occasionally it’s a twosome. Initially getting everyone’s bits and bobs in the right place, making sure everyone got looked after, well, it wasn’t as smooth as I would have liked.

I decided I’d do some research. Stop laughing. I really did start watching porn ‘for research only purposes.’

The hetero porn was jaw droppingly—boring. The women all looked like they were mentally doing their grocery list. That vacant stare you get, as you twiddle your pen, thinking…do we need more air freshener? No one looked like they were having a lot of fun. Some of them laughed like they were at a coffee morning. And the action was mechanical. Part A slots into part B, C or D.

But then, I stumbled across a gay ménage or just male/male and wow…okay…that’s a turn on!


The men seemed to be enjoying themselves for a start. They talk quietly, there’s a connection—the soft groans and genuine smiles. They kiss. A good kisser can do anything with me. A bad kisser and the whole thing’s not happening. Ugh. It’s a turn-off.

They touch each other. Nipples are tweaked, stomachs are stroked, skin nuzzled. And yes they do laugh. But you get the feeling it’s in genuine enjoyment. It’s arousing.

I write what I want to read, the steamy sensuous explicit sex scenes because I really hate reading a romance where this happens. …his zipper came down…

My God, that was the best orgasm I’ve ever had…

Er…hang on a minute? Where’s the juicy bit in the middle? I’ve been robbed!

Hinting at something delicious and sexy, but it never rears its head, so to speak.

I like men. And I like men’s genitalia. Here’s what Izzy said to Charlie once about men.

         “I like men naked. They’re very sexy, Charlie baby.”
            “A lot of women think men are ugly naked.” I wanted to see what she’d say.
            “Oh no, men are gorgeous. I like men’s penis’s and balls. Sooo sexy. You get great shapes and textures. They hang nicely and a penis changes shape. Such soft velvety skin, then you turn someone on and you get a hard silky cock.”
            “Christ woman,” I’d said, as images flashed through my head, my cock growing.
She also thinks this when she’s turning Henry on in his sleep.
I love these slow ones, watching and feeling the stages it goes through. The soft flaccid penis to the blood engorged cock with its soft velvety skin and rock hard interior. It’s very sensuous.

And I suspect most of us women who like gay porn movies and still shots are the same.

Last week on Coffee and Porn there was a shot of a lovely man with an erection walking across the room. The lovely sway of his cock was mesmerizing. I couldn’t take my eyes off it either! Just so damn delicious! And in gay male porn, you get two penises, two sets of balls and for me a personal favorite, two sets of pubic hair. Yummy. And there’s just something a wee bit illicit about two men having sex, isn’t there. It titillates and arouses. All that gorgeous male energy poured into an intimate connection. Oh yes!


My romance erotica short story Dark War was published this year with Muse It Up Publishing. You get to meet my three Charlie, Henry and Izzy. They were darkened up slightly for this story, but their essential characters are still the same. The love connection between them doesn’t change. Three hearts entwined in a deep velvety love story.

Dark War

This sensuous sultry romance is set in an old planation house in The Bayou of Louisiana. Three hearts entwined between two beautiful Creole men and one wild redhead woman. Thunderheads roll in off the bay on a hot and sultry night. The wind chimes are going wild. This heat flash has been building for a few days. Anything could happen...

Lonely Charlie Laralde aches with pent-up sexual tension and love for his two best friends, Henry and Izzy. His desire for them is torn to shreds by a vicious woman convincing him, he's unlovable trash. Like the inner Dark War struggle he's fought his whole life, he gives in to the darkness.
Frustrated and hell bent on destruction, he disappears with an unsavory crowd on a depraved death wish booty-call.

Will Henry and Izzy rescue him in time? Can they convince Charlie he's their hearts desire? And the deep passionate love and desire they have for him?


Troika Love Series Trilogy

~ Henry and Isolde

~ The Chi Circle

~ The Flame Still Burns

Henry and Isolde ~ A steamy love story, set in modern day New Orleans. Henry, an older black musician feels his life is nearing its end. Until he falls in love with Izzy, his white New Zealander, younger, richer, married boss. To his joy—she feels the same way about him. He comes into his sexuality for the first time in his life. But will Izzy leave her husband? And how does Henry's best friend Charlie fit into their lives? It's complicated...

The Chi Circle ~ Charlie comes back early from seeing Mea in New Zealand. It's not working, why? Because he's in love with someone else. Well...two someone's actually. But do his best friends have any idea how he feels? Is this a one sided frustrated fantasy? Or is it possible, they feel the same way? Follow the CHI - Charlie, Henry and Izzy, as their life takes them from Hawaii to New Orleans and France. Where they discover a lifetime just after World War I in Paris—two Russian émigrés cousins and a young Frenchman become lovers.

The Flame Still Burns ~ Life has settled into a happy easy rhythm for the three lovers. Charlie's Club is sold and they are getting ready to go to France, to research the Russian/French lifetime, when there's a knock at the door. Standing on the doorstep is a kid from a rough neighborhood of New Orleans—the spitting image of Charlie. How will they cope with Alex, who twangs at their heart strings? When he gets shot after a gangland shooting, they take him to France, where they unravel the rest of the French lifetime, they're all involved in.

The first of this series will be released later in the year. Look out for it on Amazon.



  1. Hi Meg, great post. My husband is always asking me why I am reading MM romances, your answer is way better than what I try to explain (he still doesn't get it). You are a new to me author and I am adding you to my TBR list.

    1. Aloha Ardent. :-) Thanks so much. LOL on your husband. I know, men have a wee bit of a hard with it. :-) I think I'm going to interview a few men one day and find out the reasons for that. Even the male erotica writers in my writing group don't like it. :-) Thanks for adding me to your TBR list. That's great. :-) I appreciate it a lot. Thanks for reading and commenting. Aloha Meg :-)

  2. I love the purity found in gay romance, no games.

    1. Aloha Laurie. :) Agreed. It's much more straight forward. Works for me too. I'm not a game player and find it hard to comprehend in people who do it.

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I appreciate it. Aloha Meg :-)

  3. I love read M/M romance. To be it's always better than M/f romance (which I like as well). Being a girl from the islands no one understands why I like it. I have never been able to explain it. Always just saying it's just better. Thanks for this. I look forward to reading your series.

    1. Aloha Vivalencia. :-) Me too on the m/m romance. And like you, I like the m/f too. What islands are you from? I naturally to Hawai'i when someone says islands. My American home state is the Big Island of Hawai'i. And I'm originally a New Zealander. I always think the Pacific islanders are a wee bit more sensuous... well, the ones from the tropical spots. All that sultry heat. LOL. The warm air always makes my body open up like a plumeria bloom. LOL. Thanks for reading and commenting. I hope you enjoy the series when it comes out. I appreciate you reading them in advance. :-) Aloha Meg :-)